My Friendship Life.
Firstly a lot of people actually get the idea of friendship entirely wrong, from my own personal perspective. When it comes to friends, I honestly can count them. One , Two. I only have two people, I can call my friend. That wasnt hard? well so it is. I do have a problem, and so do everybody out there. But my problem is quite unique, My problem is I find it hard to make friends and also to keep mum about something bothering me. One reason for the later which is making friends is because people cant tolerate my openess and sincerity (I always speak my mind), some people call it “pride” (wierd)? and the second reason because I dont just pick friends from the streets. But for the previous, that is speaking my mind, comes from the part of who is really me that can never be seperated from me, its part of what makes me, me.
You have to be ready to be my friend, as in the relationship has to build up, from you tolerating me and I also tolerating you over a long period of time. Which means you do appreciate me for who I am, and I also do appreciate you, for who you are and thus the real meaning and purpose of being friends is should I say “established”? and this comes from a lot of tolerance, understanding and appreciation. Tweaking who is me, to suit your needs does not arise at all, which means I dont expect you to tweak yourself, just be you, and I would appreciate that fact. Not something that is possibly achieved in a day. It takes months or even years, and thats why I said I only have two friends. Tolerance and appreciation is very important, otherwise I would just rule that association as an abject hypocrisy relationship, to satisfy you or the other person’s needs. We do not need to suck up to make friends, we can just be colleagues, or even what i call the “knowant” you know me, I know you situation. its quite easy and simple. We can talk when we need to, share ideas when we need to, but dont expect me to be there for you when you need me, and all that rubbish as in I have to do things to please you. I am really sincere about that. nothing to hide. This is because you are not my friend, and you are just like any other person out there, If I do help you please consider it as charity, it is that simple.Now this so called friends of mine, what do we share? Everything entirely and we do not even quarrel over things. Our misunderstandings end with just the blabberings and we are back to another subject and life goes on. Well works for me that way.
Do we need a lot of friends in our lives? I would say Nope, because friends are troubles, and I know a lot of people know that. But why do you then accumulate trouble if you know they are one? I really dont understand that. Well human nature I suppose. And so it is.
My friendship life is very simple, and I honestly enjoy it. Is there anything like friendship life? Dont ask me? But I said it? hmmm its my blog . hehehehe.
I so agree with you on that, i can count the number of friends i have and i cant count the number of aquaintances i have. Besides they are too much hassle, but everyone needs human contact no matter what they might think
Comment by Nneka — 10/6/2005 @ 4:40 pm
Well I think that human contact can be fullfilled when you go on with your day to day dealings, and with the few special friends you have in your collection. Thats is all we need.
Comment by kayode muyibi — 10/6/2005 @ 5:23 pm
Some people’s ideas of friendship is to find someone who is going to be there to satisfy all their needs. Friendship is supposed to be a symbiotic relationship and not a parasitic one.
Comment by Felix Adebayo — 10/6/2005 @ 8:35 pm
Yeah… a friend is not just out to take from you but also to add to you. Most people we call our friends are just qualified to be mere acquaintances…
Comment by Emmanuel — 10/6/2005 @ 10:52 pm
I think we need friends. And I think we need them all the time (sometimes to be there, at other times to let us be or just to know they are there). I would have to write a whole book to explain that….the rules I percieve, the exceptions…the experience… all of which of course differ from person to person. But I think if we generally go whole hog, we’d come back to this fact: We ALL NEED somebody…and friends are those.
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All kinds of friends: Friends for a Reason, for a Season or for a Lifetime. Some friends are good for some times in our lives and same friends dont fit in at other times…. I can’t tell you enough….
It’s not like I have it all right though, but I know for a certainty that we ALL need friends, it’s the way we were wired…all of us. I dont care what your experience has been or will be… I know NOBODY WANTS TO BE ALONE, No one DESERVES to be alone (even if it’s only in case of a fire
Afterall He made them in PAIRS…. To be Continued…
Comment by Omowumi — 10/18/2005 @ 12:37 am