Relationships
Do I happen to be a heartbreaker, or a heartless guy? , Well I would say “No”. When it comes to relationship there are problems surrounding factors such as time, money, sacrifice or even self-gratification in terms of feeling good about the whole idea, and this is really something worth tackling before going ahead into the deep realms of the whole idea. I personally do not believe that because I happen to be in a relationship, and there is love, and I am not really comfortable with the sacrifies that I really have to push myself hard to accept it, because I don’t want to hurt the other party involved. This does apply to a current relationship I had to let go. The problem with this relationship was not love, money, or I have to lie a bit time. The main issue was that I was not really comfortable with the idea of that fixated point in my life.
Many would say I am not mature enough probably, or even go into the extent to say that I am a self-centred person. Well you can judge me but you cannot be right about your judgement. But then again we shouldn’t forget the fact that I am just 22—? I still do have a long way to go in my life. And really I am not ready to settle if that might be the case. Men are always afraid in general. But in my case that’s not the issue at all. I want a flexible relationship. A relationship I can say enough is enough, and that’s the end of it. Not a relationship that bonds me forever tills the altar calls.
Recently I was in a relationship, and really I think in fact it was a healthy one except for the fact that I did not really have time, and besides I was afraid of the fact that the relationship was going too deep. I couldn’t really be there for my lady. So I decided to call it quits. But really I would say this was one of the hardest decision I had take in years. But what a man got to do, he has to do. Now well I tried to explain the reason for my stance by my ex-lady would not see it. Well to make it easy on me I just did ask for forgiveness and had to bear the fact that she wont really see my angle, not now, maybe the future. That’s a lady for you.
Well indeed relationships are what they are, hard to let go, hard to forget and really had too reason rationally when they are not going well.
I think i agree with u in totality going into deep relationship with women is really dangerous especially if u are not ready to settle down. i also have same problem i have been trying to avoid going into anything extraordinary with women is not advisable.
Comment by Bashir Abayomi — 5/12/2005 @ 8:05 pm